Debi Haden

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“Grieving and Healing in the New Year”


“Grief is really just love. It’s all the love you want to
give and cannot. All that unspent love gathers up in the corners of your eyes, the lump in your throat, and the hollow part in your chest. Grief is just love with no place to go.”…

Grief is a normal and natural response to loss, and it affects people in different ways. It can be a confusing and intense experience that can leave us feeling numb, shocked, and disbelieving, particularly when the loss is sudden and unexpected. It can be triggered by the loss of a loved one, a pet, a relationship, a job, or even a way of life. Grief can be a complex and difficult emotion to deal with, and it is often accompanied by a range of other emotions such as sadness, anger, guilt, and confusion.

As we enter a new year, it is common for people to reflect on the past year and the losses they have experienced. This can be a particularly challenging time for those who are grieving, as the holidays and the start of a new year can serve as a reminder of what has been lost.

It’s important to remember that grief is a necessary process that can’t be avoided, and it’s okay to feel a range of emotions, including anger, sadness, and confusion. It’s also important to be kind and patient with yourself and to find support from others to help you cope. 

Here are some tips for dealing with grief as you enter the new year:

  1. Allow yourself to feel your emotions: It’s important to allow yourself to feel and express your emotions, rather than bottling them up or trying to push them away. This may mean crying, screaming, or writing in a journal. It’s okay to feel sad, angry, or any other emotion that comes up.
  2. Take care of yourself: Grief can be physically and emotionally draining, so it’s important to take care of yourself. This may mean getting enough sleep, eating well, and getting exercise. It may also mean seeking support from friends and family or seeking professional help from a therapist or counsellor.
  3. Find ways to remember and honour your loved one: Keeping the memory of your loved one alive can be comforting and help you work through your grief. This may mean creating a memorial, sharing memories with others, or finding a way to incorporate your loved one’s interests and values into your life.
  4. Find meaning in your loss: It can be helpful to try to find meaning in your loss, as this can help you make sense of what has happened and find a way forward. This may involve finding ways to honour your loved one’s memory, or finding ways to help others who are going through a similar experience.
  5. Seek support: Grief can be a very isolating experience, so it’s important to seek support from others. This may mean talking to friends and family, joining a support group, or seeking professional help from a therapist or counsellor.
  6. Give yourself time: Grief is a process, and it takes time to work through it. Be patient with yourself and allow yourself the time you need to heal.

Grief can be a long and difficult journey, but over time, the pain can ease and you can learn to manage your life without the person who has passed away. It’s important to understand that it’s not necessary to “get over” the death, but rather to find ways to manage your life without the person and to express your emotions in healthy ways.

As you enter a new year, try to focus on the positive aspects of your life and the good memories you have of your loved one. Remember that it’s okay to take things one day at a time, and to reach out for support when you need it.

If you would like any help and support to cope with your grief then please contact me to arrange a free clarity call to discuss how I can help you move forward with your life.

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